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Thu, 04 Feb 2010 20:04:00 -0500

Hello all..

im so psyched

 with my new wedding website... hehe im happy to say that it is 85% completed!! yiipieeeee....

This site is

dedicated to my loved ones esp with my upcoming wedding in March 2010...

its more pers

onal and based on  family, love & pictures...

i soo cant wait to get it ready cos its our official wedding site! woohooo

well.. give u heads up...

http://surianahafiz.com

loves, ms d

my Peachyday words..hehe

Tue, 22 Dec 2009 21:24:00 -0500

Yippie....!! its Xmas week.. and seriously im stuck in kl at this time of the year....hehe

but frankly speaking; its not really my wishes to be here but bcos i got a whole list of errands to run until 2010!! hahahahha

First; id like to thank to those who made lotsa effort for "my Peachy Engagement 13122009" last sunday.. im so ever touched with your presence/ your gestures / your help on my 2nd biggest day of my life.

so here i am;,.. thanking you from the bottom of my heart..

My mother; the heart behind the whole engagement operation... who always amazed us with her bright creative ideas & planning (despite being the small/quite last minute plans);

My dad whom the sponsor (hehe) whom endlessly being supportive & co-operative.. they both my pillars...my strength..hehe
Also wana thank my 2 darling sisters..who've been there through my thick & thin.. my supportive melody...that day would'nt be complete without their presence.. and & theirlove.. loves u guyss...
and my fiance....hehe HA.. the man behind the ring..the guy Insyallah whom im gona marry soon.... hehe.. i pray our journeybe always blessed by the Al-Mighty and the road be always filled withlove, kindness, laughter, trueness of the hearts & be loved byothers. May we always be in love.. till the end of time.. insyallah..amin...

I pray may 2009 leave us with peace.. with wonderful memorable memories to keep..

with wonderful smiles we left behind...

and insyallah may 2010 welcomes all of us with open arms....

.... and may our hearts be warm always...~ amin

Loves, ms.D

If a man....

Sun, 10 May 2009 21:35:00 -0400

If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away.
If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay.
Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior.
Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.
Stop trying to change yourselves for a relationship that's not meant to be. Slower is better.
Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy.
Ifa relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deservethen heck no, you can't "be friends." A friend wouldn't mistreat afriend.
Don't settle. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is.
Don't stay because you think "it will get better." You'll be mad atyourself a year later for staying when things are not better.
The only person you can control in a relationship is you.Avoidmen who've got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women. Hedidn't marry them when he got them pregnant, Why would he treat you anydifferently?
Always have your own set of friends separate from his.Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you.
If something bothers you, speak up.
Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later.
You cannot change a man's behavior.
Change comes from within.
Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are...even if hehas more education or in a better job.
Do not make him into a quasi-god. He is a man, nothing more nothing less.
Never let a man define who you are.
Never borrow someone else's man. If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you.
A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you. All men are NOT dogs.
You should not be the one doing all the bending...compromise is a two-way street.
You need time to heal between relationships...there is nothing cuteabout baggage... deal with your issues before pursuing a newrelationship Y
ou should never look for someone to COMPLETEyou...a relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals...
look forsomeone complimentary...not supplementary.
Dating is fun...even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr. Right (agreed!).Make him miss you sometimes...
when a man always know where you are, andyour always readily available to him- he takes it for granted.
Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you need.
Keep him in your radar but get to know others.Share this with other ladies..... You'll make someone SMILE, anotherRETHINK her choices, and another woman PREPARE. They say it takes aminute to find a special person, an hour to appreciate them, a day tolove them and an entire lifetime to forget them.
** BY THE WAY, THIS WAS WRITTEN BY A MAN **

First penned of 2 0 0 9

Sat, 07 Feb 2009 19:20:00 -0500

Hola everyone!!

its 2009 after all and fast approaching valentines are coming to town..

im sure 2009 is passing through us in the sands of time and im sure many of us are beginning to have the heads up in moving forward in this 2009 whether new job; new life; newly weds; new babies; new families; new house; new things and so the list goes on...

and as we all know this recession will impact us hard for sometime & in the meantime its best to stay low & keep cash. to those craze shoppers out there; i feel you.. but its time to save & only shop when necessary sale (dior & lv's sale will be 50% on and more soon..)

so do more your bit by conserving for future...and lessen your financial debts.

for valentine celebraters; spend wisely as its a very expensive season to spend (knowing price markups if you dont look enough)... make sure its all within your means.

valentine no valentine; cny no cny... remember; this is the rainy day we all have to save for.

xoxo

How to Detect Lies

Wed, 10 Oct 2007 05:33:00 -0400

Telling a bunch of lies seems to be a nature to some of us... what nature having telling a lie is the difference between the white lies & the real untruths... which the white lies are mostly innocent lies; accidental or said to prevent hurting emotions. but the real lies are the ones we should be careful of. how do we know its soul consuming at a certain point? ... perhaps we should be a lie police once awhile!.. found these interesting.. have a read below! :)

Become a Lie Detector

Introduction to Detecting Lies:

The following techniques to telling if someone is lying are often used by police, and security experts. This knowledge is also useful for managers, employers, and for anyone to use in everyday situations where telling the truth from a lie can help prevent you from being a victim of fraud/scams and other deceptions.

Warning: Sometimes Ignorance is bliss; after gaining this knowledge, you may be hurt when it is obvious that someone is lying to you.

Signs of Deception:

Body Language of Lies:

Physical expression will be limited and stiff, with few arm and hand movements. Hand, arm and leg movement are toward their own body the liar takes up less space.

A person who is lying to you will avoid making eye contact.

Hands touching their face, throat & mouth. Touching or scratching the nose or behind their ear. Not likely to touch his chest/heart with an open hand.

Emotional Gestures & Contradiction

Timing and duration of emotional gestures and emotions are off a normal pace. The display of emotion is delayed, stays longer it would naturally, then stops suddenly.

Timing is off between emotions gestures/expressions and words. Example: Someone says "I love it!" when receiving a gift, and then smile after making that statement, rather then at the same time the statement is made.

Gestures/expressions don't match the verbal statement, such as frowning when saying I love you.

Expressions are limited to mouth movements when someone is faking emotions (like happy, surprised, sad, awe, )instead of the whole face. For example; when someone smiles naturally their whole face is involved: jaw/cheek movement, eyes and forehead push down, etc.

Interactions and Reactions

A guilty person gets defensive. An innocent person will often go on the offensive.

A liar is uncomfortable facing his questioner/accuser and may turn his head or body away.

A liar might unconsciously place objects (book, coffee cup, etc.) between themselves and you.

Verbal Context and Content

A liar will use your words to make answer a question. When asked, Did you eat the last cookie?The liar answers, No, I did not eat the last cookie.

A statement with a contraction is more likely to be truthful: I didn't do it instead of I did not do it

Liars sometimes avoid "lying" by not making direct statements. They imply answers instead of denying something directly.

The guilty person may speak more than natural, adding unnecessary details to convince you... they are not comfortable with silence or pauses in the conversation.

A liar may leave out pronouns and speak in a monotonous tone. When a truthful statement is made the pronoun is emphasized as much or more than the rest of the words in a statement.

Words may be garbled and spoken softly, and syntax and grammar may be off. In other
words, his sentences will likely be muddled rather than emphasized.

Related Books:

Never be Lied to Again

Body Language

Other signs of a lie:

If you believe someone is lying, then change subject of a conversation quickly, a liar follows along willingly and becomes more relaxed. The guilty wants the subject changed; an innocent person may be confused by the sudden change in topics and will want to back to the previous subject.

Using humor or sarcasm to avoid a subject.

Final Notes:

Obviously, just because someone exhibits one or more of these signs does not make them a liar. The above behaviors should be compared to a persons base (normal) behavior whenever possible.

Sweet Realization

Wed, 03 Oct 2007 10:07:00 -0400

A Sweet Realization:

You Can Only Be You (and That Makes You Lucky!)

There is no one else in the world like you. There is no one who has experienced every single experience you

have or shares the exact same outlook that you do. You bring something unique and wonderful into this world

every single day you are in it. You are one of a kind and while it might be nice to admire the bodies,

 personalities, achievements and other attributes belonging to others,

 you can only be you.

Take what you have and take the best care of it you can. Honor the space that is your body. Exercise your mind

 and clean out the clutter and chaos that comes by way of toxic relationships, bad habits and vintage thought

 processes.

Carry yourself with the care and pride you do your favorite piece of jewelry or clothings. Cherish yourself.

You do

not have to look a certain way, be a certain size or be attached to someone to be gorgeous, loveable and

meaningful to this world. You are priceless and the moment you realize that your whole life will open up.

Someone is looking at you with admiration right now.  They see greatness in you.  Now see it in yourself.

Tell me, what do you love about you?

                                                                                                            Posted by Brenda Della Casa

Look before u leap...

Tue, 02 Oct 2007 15:37:00 -0400

Before taking your relationship to the next level.. here i reckon these Questions to ask yourselves before you jump ...

Before.....you get engaged.

What are his long term values & goals (in terms of career, wealth, relationships, family & health)? Are they compatible with mine? Do i expect any of these goals to change?
How much do i expect him to spend on a ring (relative to his income)? Does he know this
What is the first thing I'll be excited about when he proposes: the ring, or our future together?
Does being with him make me truly happy - happier than i was before - or am i just relieved to have a fiance?
Am i doing this because it feels right, or is it because i have an internal timeline?
Do i feel pressure because my girlfriends are engaged, i'm getting older, or my family is pushing me?
Does he take responsibility and know how to say "sorry", or does he give me the cold shoulder?
What kind of friends - and friendships - does he have?
Does he put his mates ahead of our relationship?
Are we moving at the same pace, or is one of us rushing the other to take this next step?
When i have pangs for old boyfriends, are they fleeting, or do they leave me longing?
Has he ever flirted with other women while we've been together? If so, am i convinced he now understands appropriate boundaries?
Do we have the same ideas about where to live?

Before....you get married...

Are our values (family, religion, politics) in sync? Can he tolerate my relatives, and can i deal with his?
Are either of us cut off from, or over-involved with, our families?
Have we discussed our family health histories?
Have we discussed whether or not we want kids, how many, and how we want to raise them?
Are our career objectives in sync? Does one of us want to stay at home?
Would he be cool with my desire to work - or not - after kids?
Would i be OK with being the breadwinner? would he?
Do i know how he'll feel if i decide to keep my last name?
Do i feel comfortable "marrying" into his social circle of friends?
If one of his parents turned on me, would he stand up for me or would i have to fight for myself?
What's his idea of the right way to discipline children?
Do we have similar definitions of what quality leisure time is, and how our holidays should be spent
Will i be incurring any of his debts, or will he incurring any of mine?
Do we plan on having separate bank accounts, or creating one that we will both share
Is he open to going to counselling to work through our problems (if we need to one day)? Am i?
If what i have now is exactly what he'll always be - and nothing more - will i be content with him in the long-term?

taken from Cosmopolitan mag... voila!

the good stuff

Tue, 25 Sep 2007 08:15:00 -0400

I got this from my friendster bulletin.. (from a guy course!) Not sure how true this is.. but what the heck.. this is good stuff for de gurls... ;)

I can tell you this definitively about men: When a man falls for a woman, he falls hard. Men love to be in love. While men often get stereotyped as single-minded sex-seekers, the truth is that a man's stomach churns like a slushy machine when he's in those initial stages of the perfect relationship.

When you consider that half of men say that they're currently not with their soul mates, that means a heck of a lot of slushy machines are waiting to be turned on. What are they waiting for?
What makes a man fall in love? After you rule out the obvious intangible laws of chemistry, attraction, and being in the right place at the right time that kick-start many a relationship, I think the question really becomes this: What makes a man fall -- and stay -- in love?

About 60 percent of men deem friendship the most important thing in a relationship (sex comes in at a skimpy 8 percent, according to a national Harris Interactive poll), but let's delve a little deeper. What exactly does that mean, and what kind of woman does a man really want? With full acknowledgement that men's tastes in women are as unpredictable as the plotline of "24," these are some of things that many men value in "the one."

A Woman with a Passion in Something Other Than Him

Yes, it's nice to be doted over. Yes, it's nice to be pampered. Yes, it's nice to be with a woman who showers you with compliments, neck kisses, and all of her attention. But there's a virtual Great Wall of China between a fleeting, flirtatious glance and the kind of attraction that can last a
lifetime. Many men say they like a woman who's immersed in something else other than the relationship -- be it her work, or her sport, or whatever her "thing" is. Why? The passion she
shows for something else confirms her inherent goodness, her personal drive, her independence. All pluses in the woman we're hoping to spend a few decades with.

A Woman with No Problem with Guy Time

Every relationship has to choreograph the time-together dance. Once a couple elevates from casual to serious, it goes through that period when most waking and sleeping minutes are spent
together. But at some point in the dance, one person will call a time out from the music of coupledom, and try to spend more time with his or her friends -- while still being careful not to step on any feet in the process. Even when they're with the most perfect woman, men still crave the occasional space to spend golfing or drinking or doing whatever (64 percent of men are happy to have the time to themselves when their wives or girlfriends have plans). Men love,
appreciate, and are thankful for women who respect and endorse (and not complain about) his need to have a few testosterone mixers. Don't worry, March Madness will be over in just a few weeks!

A Woman with a Strut

Her strut in the bar may have been part of his initial attraction. The strut from the bedroom to the bathroom after the first night together may have been pure visual ecstasy. But the strut that happens day in and day out is one of the major attractors for a man. What do I mean by the strut? It's that attitude, that sassiness, that confidence, that charisma, that charm that shows she can be a little bold and little daring. In a recent post I talked about the line between a woman being confident and a woman being so aggressive that she turns men away, but the truth is that in certain aspects of relationships, men want women who have the strut. Men want to be with women who challenge them, who push them, and who take the lead some of the times. And that's as true in the bedroom as it is in planning their next weekend getaway.

The danger? While it can be insanely attractive, that strut of confidence can also swing a man 180 degrees -- if she uses it in other places, like to flirt with other guys, to become a relationship dictator, or to pick a fight with his mom in front of the whole family. He'll point that kind of strut right out the door.

A Woman with a Good Taste in Ties

Okay, so we don't really care about the ties per se. But what we care about is a woman's ability to give us a little-and this is a key word-gentle guidance. I know Freudian followers will say that it's a man's need to be mothered, but it's more than that.

Every relationship is a give and take, and guys will definitely take women who can warn us when our new soul patch looks stupid, who can guide us to the perfect suit and shirt combo for an upcoming job interview, who can help them make decisions without being harsh or judgmental. Guys like to project that they know what they're doing and that they don't need any help. Women who can help steer us, without aggressively grabbing the wheel, are the most treasured copilots.